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What’s your unfinished letter?

Posted on Wednesday 14 February 2007 by Greg @ 7:36 am
Filed under: Rants

Its something I wasn’t mentally prepared for.

I had one hundred or so youth leaders in a conference room in Indianapolis just a few days ago at the Group and Simply Youth Ministry sponsored National Youth Worker’s Conference. We had just spent a day together talking about equipping their teens to share Jesus with confidence and clarity. But then something happened that I wasn’t ready for.

Let me explain.

After training these eager youth leaders that if they were going to get their kids to share their faith that they had to lead the way themselves, I gave them a "class project." Each of them took a pen and a piece of paper and began to write a personal letter to that one person whom they know who desperately needs an encounter with Jesus. After ten minutes or so of writing I had them stop. I explained to them that this letter represents that conversation that they needed to have with that person in the next 48 hours. They could finish the letter after class and send it in the mail (after all who sends real letters any more? Getting a letter is something rare and special!) Or they could put that half finished letter in their back pocket and pick up their cell phone and either share with them right over the phone or set up a meeting with them in the next few days.

Those half finished letters in their hands represented unfinished conversations that needed to be completed. Some represented conversations that needed to be started.

After everyone understood what these letters represented I asked who would like to read what they had written. The first letter went something like, "Dear Joe, I know we talk alot about all sorts of stuff. We talk about football, basketball and baseball. But there’s one thing I’ve failed to bring up to you. The most important thing. His name is Jesus Christ." With these words this youth leader’s booming voice cracked and he began to cry…as did we all.

Youth leaders began to share and all of us continued to shed tears. We all fell apart when one lady started her letter with the words, "Dear Daddy…." I don’t even remember what she wrote. All I remember is the heart broken yet hopeful way she said the word "Daddy" left me a mess.

We all left the room that day motivated, moved and ready to share the good news with that one person…ready to finish and send that unfinished letter.

Who do you need to send a letter to? Is it your friend, your classmate, your co-worker or maybe even your daddy? Whoever it is I want to challenge you to sit down with pen and paper and write that letter that explains the good news of Jesus to that special person. Pour out your heart through that pen onto that paper. Let them know how much you long for them to know Jesus and the hope that you have found in him.

Believe me, it’s the best Valentine’s gift you could ever send.

After your finished I’d love to hear all or part of it. Would you dare to share that letter with us all? Maybe just even share the first part of your letter with us online so that we can pray with you and for that person as that letter is sent out. Leave all or part of that letter as a comment below.

It’s time to finish that letter.

Signed, Greg Stier

18 Comments for 'What’s your unfinished letter?'

  1. On February 14, 2007 @ 8:35 am Brian Alexander said:
    • Hey Greg, We are doing something similar to that at my church. We have this visiation ministy and you see..we do hand written letters for the same reason, it’s unique.  I’m sure people respond to them and actually come to church. It’s a good thing that ya’ll are doing at D2S, but I know God is doing so much more.

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  2. On February 14, 2007 @ 8:53 am Jonathan HEndrix said:
    • Dear Greg,  I want to tell youu something. you have never heard from me. last year i met you at the revolution tour in St. Louis. i have been called by God to be an evangelist. i am called to do something similar to what you all do. how did you get started? I just wanted you to know, with the drama you did on Gameday, well when the second girl sid that i was the joy placed before him, that hit me really hard!!! i am praying to God that you will be blessed for being so brave. if i grow to be have the man that youare, i will consider myself blessed. please feel free to respond back to me. i long for a real friend, someone who loves Jesus and likes to preach as much as i do. I am 17. i love you and always know that you and your team have encouraged me so much. may God bless you. and say hello to rachel washington for me. i love her new cd. one day i hope to meet this wonderful spirit-filled woman of God. i hope to meet you and hosea as well. god bless nd people who message, PLEASE, resond to me. and please pray for me??!!!!!!!!!

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  3. On February 14, 2007 @ 9:31 am Sarhea Hall said:
    • Hey Greg, Sarhea here again I posted on your St. Louis post about how God took my life and changed it around because of the drama.(If you haven’t read it I encourage you t I was not a member then and it is just posted as Sarhea). That idea is such a great one. I just feel like I need to do that and I will. Greg I have a question for you… I am pretty sure you don’t know me but um my life isn’t the greatest in the world. Here is a shoort summary my parents split up because f me when I was 5. My father is a Jehovah’s Wittnes and my mom is nothing. they booth hate my church and well they handle it in different ways my father  just trys to avoid thhe subject. My mother um likes to take the verbal abuse apraoch you know calling me a skank and whatnot. I try to witness to them but thhey kinda push me away. I try to bring up the situation with my youth group but it seems there is always a certain person that interupts me mid-sentence so the focus will go on her. IDK what to do I feel afraid but I want to go foward and face this fear head-on. I want to talk to my parents but I feel as if something is holding me back what should I do. I am just so confused.I am sorry if I didn’t make any sence at al it was just what was on my mind.

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  4. On February 14, 2007 @ 9:55 am darkpoet said:
    • Hay thet’s deep it goes like right here * pats chest* really it does. Oh and i took your 48 hour challange that you gave us in St. Louis and i talked to my friend Amanda shes an athist and has made her self her own self proclamed God and with the help of my friend David we talked to her a bit it was hard because she says shes proud to be a sninner and proud to have commited every one of the seven sins but we did and she thinks i’m crazy but that only the begging i’m gonna keep talking with her thats for the motivation!                                   Shooting Stars Cross Our Eyes                                                        DarkPoet

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  5. On February 14, 2007 @ 12:11 pm Melissa said:
    • You wanted us to write a letter to that friend whom we know needs God and have never been able to tell him about God’s love.  Well I have an exboyfriend who I have been friends with since we broke up but haven’t talked to him in 2 months.  When we dated I tried sharing my faith with him and we would have some pretty good conversations but all ending the same way with him telling me that he wanted nothing to do with a god who would take someone he loves away from him. and then after we broke up we quit talking for 2 years and then out of nowhere he calls me  and we started talking again. I was able to talk to him again about christ and this time he was a little more open minded where he said he prayed to God for other people but never for himself. He says he doesnt need prayer that God can’t change him.  He even asked me not to pray for him, but I told him I couldn’t do that.  I have been praying for him for a long time and I just don’t know why God has layed him on my heart but God has layed him there for a reason so Please pray for my friend (Zach) and that when i write the letter you asked us to write pray that God gives me the words that my friend needs to hear.  Thanks so much for what you do and if you have any advice feel free to write.  Melissa

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  6. On February 14, 2007 @ 1:24 pm Sista said:
    • Greg, This is an AWESOME idea!  I feel like God really wants me to work with our youth, but do you ever feel ill-equipped?  I know that Satan wants us to feel that way - like we’re never good enough.  Well, I know NONE of us are really ever GOOD ENOUGH, but God can use the once-filthy rags of this world to reach out to others and make a difference.  It’s kind of funny, because when I sit down and really think it over, I think about how I can’t be a leader of youth because I failed myself as a youth.  My  husband and I had a baby before we got married.  (Now he’s a pastor - go figure!)  I guess when we were awaiting the ordination service, we had nightmares of them asking "OK, sir, so how long have you and your wife been married?  Oh, really, and your son is how old?  Hmmm.  So you had your son 9 months before your wedding?  Just how do you think you can lead us?"  Don’t get me wrong. Our church is wonderful and the people are caring, but we tend to put limitations on ourselves, especially when we know God wants to work through us.  We want to be like Moses and tell God why we can’t do the task that is before us.  My heart is in our youth group!  We had a WONDERFUL weekend at the St. Louis Dare2Share conference!  I always felt like I can’t come up with good ideas on how to lead the class, you know?  But on Friday night, when we went back to the church to stay the night, and we went through the questions about the drama, it was so AMAZING how God was there!!!!  Every one of the youth shared something, yes, even the shy ones who would die if they had to say anything! : )   The depth of the conversation was so refreshing.  You always wonder as a youth leader if they even listen to a thing you say, you know?  We have a unique situation at our church, because the majority of the youth group up until this point in time has always been home-schooled, and their parents do not allow them to listen to music, even Christian, or go out on outreach opportunities.  They live in little bubbles of existence just trying to hold on to their own righteousness.  How do you stress the importance of how people need to reach out to others, when those people are surrounded entirely by Christians and do NOT go out of their bubbles?  What happens when they reach the world outside their bubbles?  Will they be strengthened enough to care about others?  Will they be able to withstand the sudden onset of outside influences that surround Americans?  They just seem so uncaring.  They tend to think Missionaries are great, but those lost people are just yucky and do bad things and they need to stay away, you know?  I’m definitely going to have the youth group do this assignment of writing the letter.  Maybe those students honestly will NOT have one single idea of a person pop into their heads, but I’m just going to have the lead the class with outreach in mind.  We go deep in almost every meeting, but I think the application of the scriptures isn’t real to them and NO ONE is going wide, yes, including me!!!!!  I am challenged to lead the way now.  Thank you!  I think that’s just what I needed!  Someone to tell me it’s ok to go ahead and strive for something more than what the class claims to be ready for.  Just what are we here on earth for if we’re living all about ourselves and not caring a single bit about anyone else!?!?

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  7. On February 14, 2007 @ 6:03 pm Becky said:
    • Wow what a challenge.I know who I am going to send my lettter to.Diane my neighbor.

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  8. On February 14, 2007 @ 6:15 pm Julie E. said:
    • Greg, I will be writing my unfinished letter sometime soon. I am so thankful that you challenge us to do things that take big leaps of faith. God has truly blessed you and will continually to do so! I was searching for some Christian songs today, and I found one that really related to my life. I love this song, and I hope that you and others do to. Really pay attention to the words, they have so much meaning. I pray that whatever is going on in your life right now, that these words will speak to you. Also, if you are needing someplace to read in the Bible, I suggest to read Psalm 139. I am so joyful to know that I serve an amazing God, Lord, and Daddy who will never leave my side…….here’s the song “Here I go Again, by Casting Crowns. : Father, hear my prayer I need the perfect words Words that he will hear And know they’re straight from You I don’t know what to say I only know it hurts To see my only friend slowly fade away Chorus: So maybe this time I’ll speak the words of life With Your fire in my eyes But that old familiar fear is tearin’ at my words What am I so afraid of? ‘Cause here I go again Talkin’ ’bout the rain And mullin’ over things that won’t live past today And as I dance around the truth Time is not his friend This might be my last chance to tell him that You love Him But here I go again Here I go again Lord, You love him so You gave Your only Son If he will just believe He will never die But how then will he know What he has never heard? Lord he has never seen mirrored in my life Chorus: But here I go again Here I go, here I go Chorus: This might be my last chance To tell him that You love him This might be my last chance To tell him that You love him You love him, You love him What am I so afraid What am I so afraid What am I so afraid of? How then will he know What he has never heard? Your lil sis in Christ Jesus, Julie

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  9. On February 14, 2007 @ 9:50 pm Lori Anne said:
    • Hey, Greg!  Well, I just wanted you to know that I have started my unfinished letter, but I don’t intend on mailing it.  You see, I was raised in church, but durring my teen years I went somewhere way different.  Sure wished I had known about D2S then!  Anyway, I am now working on becoming a licensed youth pastor.  I don’t hang out with my "party" friends anymore, and most of the time they avoid me anyway.  They think I have some sort of sickness now…it’s the best sickness ever!!!!!  Even though they avoid me face to face, I do know that they all visit my myspace page and subscribe to my blog.  So, my letter is going to be posted in my blog for ALL to read yet it’s personally addressed to each of them.  I’ll send you the link when I finish!

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  10. On February 14, 2007 @ 10:37 pm DP said:
    • Hi Greg, This was my second year as a volunteer at dare2share, and I will continue to volunteer every year, I love it you guys are awesome!  God is awesome, I love teenagers, and seeing over 9000 of them on fire for the Lord is amazing…  I leave there so pumped…   It’s funny you should post about unfinished letters because I have about 5 of them written but never mailed to my nephew, he is very lost, he is awaiting a trial date and will most likely do time in prison for drugs,  I have tried for the last 3 years to get him to go to Dare2share, but he always tells me he don’t need "religion" to fix him, and yes I have tried telling him it’s about relationship not religion…..  I feel as if I’ve been beating my head againist a brick wall when it comes to him.  It’s really hard when you see what God can do for someone and they refuse to hear you.. He was really on my mind while i was at dare2share and I really wanted to call him, but he refuses to answer my phone calls anymore, he says it’s because he’s too embarassed because he’s going to prison, he had another trial date on Tues, but once again it got postponed for another month.  I was going to start the letter here in hopes that you could help me finish it,  but I don’t even know where to begin, and now i’ve rambled on and on… please pray that God will give me the words to reach him….  He is such an angry young man, I can’t get through to him, and now his younger brother is following in his foot steps, there is so much I want to say but yet I can’t seem to find the words.

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  11. On February 15, 2007 @ 8:03 am unknown said:
    • I was at the Dare 2 Share conference in Saint Louis.  I have a friend that wanted to commit suicide after learning that she would go to hell.  She said that she doenst even want to go to heaven anymore and that she is an agnostic. Please help!

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  12. On February 15, 2007 @ 5:08 pm Jessy said:
    • Hey Greg! This really is a great idea! haha. Recently, I have been making great progress with my friend in Logan. He told me that if he died right now he’d go to Hell, but I have been taking the "forks in the roads" and I have brought up salvation 3 times. He tries to change the subject, but I keep praying for God to give him the need to have Jesus in his life, and it’s working! haha. I’m on an e-team at my church, and these past few days I have really been interested in sharing the Gospel. Like, it’s fun! haha. I don’t know for sure yet, but I think God is calling me to be a future youth leader.-and my letter. It went something like this- Dear Zack,                  I love our late-night conversations on the phone! Even though your grandparents get mad, I love to talk to you. Yeah, I guess I do know a lot about the Bible. I go to a youth group where we have fun while learning about Jesus. I wish your church had a youth group. It’s so much fun, but the best part is knowing you’re with a bunch (unless the youth group is small. like ours) of other teens who have a love for the same thing-Jesus Christ! You told me the other night that if you died right now, you would go to Hell, but it doesn’t have to be that way. There is a way, and it’s the only way. Jesus tells us in the Bible that all we have to do in order to go to Heaven someday is to believe that Jesus died for our sins, and to have faith in Jesus that we may know that we can go to Heaven. I know I’m going to Heaven because I believe that Jesus Christ died for us, and I put all of my faith and trust in Jesus alone as my savior. You can have the same confidence as me. Do something for me this week, please. Take out your Grandma’s Bible, and start to read a chapter of Mark everyday or so. Mark is a good book to start on because it’s really interesting, and Jesus performs a lot of miracles. After you read the Bible, ask God to forgive you. You basically blow it everyday. We all do. So, you should ask God to forgive you. Agree with God that you have done wrong. The Bible says that God will forgive and forget. He will forgive you, and forget your sin. I can’t wait to talk to you this weekend. I hope you read your Bible some this week. If you want to, we can talk to God this weekend. We can pray  over the phone. If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to ask me. I’m not going to think you’re a freak. Haha, hey, if they call you a Jesus freak because you believe the whole "gospel" thing, then I’ll be a freak, too! Love, In Christ,                     Jessica so yeah. thats pretty much my letter. thanks for taking the time Greg!

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  13. On February 15, 2007 @ 6:36 pm Stephanie said:
    • Wow good idea Greg!  I’m going to do that!  I’ll be writing it to my Dad.  Because even though he was raised a Christian, and has been all his life, hes really not living it anymore.  Which includes drinking, debt, death, and lots of other things.  So if you could pray for me, and him, that’d be great!  I definately want to fix our relationship, and want his relationship with God back!

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  14. On February 16, 2007 @ 5:51 pm Brittney McClain said:
    • Dear Greg,  i did what you said and wrote a letter to my friend. i didn’t send it to her in the mail because my mail box is temporarly out of order (my mom ran it over) insted i just gave it to her at school. She still hasn’t found God. i am trying really hard to make her believe. she says she can’t go to church because of some reason to do with her family. i have offered to take her but she said it would be wierd because her parents did go to church a long time ago. she thought that it would be weird if she went to a different church than they went to. then i offered to take her to that church. but she still says no. so i just keep telling her about god, but she isn’t really understanding. Please Help Me! i don’t know what else to do. you can e-mail me i don’t care. -Brittney

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  15. On February 16, 2007 @ 8:22 pm Jacob McKee said:
    • Howdy Greg!! This is the first time i have visited your personbal website and what a thrill to see the letter on the first page. I am so glad i was in that room on Sunday and got to experience that moving reading of letters. ( I am the bald guy that sat close to the front.) I have talked to my friend(craig) and he says he is a Christian. I would like to see him in church. The way he lives his life concerns me but i can not say what is really in his heart. Only hime and God know. Last night his fiance had their baby. I am hoping that this experience will move him to get his family into church and live a life that honors God. He will be a great dad and i am certain that someone with his enthusiasm for life could really reach alot of people for Christ if he gets on board!! Thank you for and awesome time this past weekend. I will never forget what i learned and what the Lord did in my life. Jacob McKee

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  16. On February 17, 2007 @ 1:17 am Rachel Huff said:
    • Hey, i’m Rachel, and i’m 17 years old. …..i’ve never been so close to God before in my entire life. man, you’ve helped me grow so much. since the d2s on feb. 10-11, i’ve shared my faith with at least 4 people. i’m what you call the "Buddy" in your book dare to share, and i finally got enough courage to just spill, and share everything i know about Jesus to 3 of my coworkers, one of my brother’s best friends (also a good friend of mine), 2 friends i met and talk to through myspace and yahoo messanger, and God’s been by my side the entire time. I feel great after talking to them about my Jesus, even if they don’t accept Him. (none of them have yet, but i’m not going to give up). my passion for people, and for Jesus grew 10x after d2s weekend. that was my first time going, and i believe it has changed my life forever. the story with 2 of my coworkers is def. a God thing. the monday after we came back from d2s, i decided to stop being so scared of stepping up, and at least send them an e-mail. so i’ll show you the first part of this e-mail, because it is pretty long….  Melanie,  what’s goin’ on?… okay, you’re probably gonna think i’m …weird or something, but i was thinkin tonight at work about the future and stuff… well…eternity. and then i started thinking about that time when you and heather, and a few other workers ..were all talking about why i believe what i believe. anyways, i was wondering if i ever really gave a straight answer about the question you asked me "why do you believe what you do?" so i thought i’d answer it. and i wouldn’t say anything about what i believe if i honestly didn’t believe it with my whole heart . God is very real in my life. He changed my life around… I used to cuss quite a bit, and was very loud and uh…annoying ha….believe it or not. that is because i was missing something in my heart, and didn’t get it until i started going to a youth group every wednesday night, only, i went because my best friend at the time went there. I didn’t really think anything of God, or what all those silly little sunday school stories said about Jesus. anyways, i went to this camp with that youth group when i was 13. the theme was "love God, love people" …i know you don’t believe in God… but i KNOW He was there… because there was this crazy …..feeling… in the atmosphere, i can’t really describe it, it just felt unreal…. okay, so she hasn’t read this e-mail yet, she didn’t even know i sent it until after this conversation we had a couple nights later at work…. but the other night at my youth group, my youth pastor handed out packets for the 30 hour famine. my goal is to raise $500, so i brought this packet to work, and asked my good friend melanie to donate a couple dollars, at first she was all like "can’t they find their own food?….do you realize that there ARE rich people in Africa that can help them, and you don’t have to?" then she ended up giving $5 ..haha. anyways, right after that she started asking me more questions  like "have you ever drank anything?" and then the guy i was workin with that night starts asking questions too. like "is drinking a sin?" and …well, that’s pretty much all he was asking me, what is sin, and are some sins worse than others. anyways, one topic lead to the next, and i ended up telling them pretty much all what i believe and why i believe it, and i did share the GOSPEL acronym thing with them, and she sounded so interested in everything i was saying, i don’t know if she’s starting to believe any of it or not though. but i’m NOT going to give up. God put me in this workplace for a reason, and i’m gonna do what i’m supposed to do until whatever God has planned happens. my coworkers eternity is more important to me then mine, because i know where i’m going, and i know where they’re headed right now.  anyways, thank you for being so stinkin awesomely on fire for God. ^_^ love in Christ! your sister, Rachel Huff 

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  17. On February 19, 2007 @ 10:58 pm dreamer08 said:
    • hey greg….more than anything else comment is a thank-you  to you and an encouragement to everyone that’s taking the chance of talking to their friends and loved ones about Christ…you see last march…d2s came to houston, tx…(unfortunately the last d2s in texas)..and my youth group and i went…i took the 48hour challenge…actually the letter route to be more specific…i spent the entire 4 hour van ride through the middle of the night writing that letter…the next day at school, i gave my friend shaun that letter….i’d known shaun for a couple of years and my friends and i would always try to invite him to our youth events…but he never would come…i realized that even though we were inviting him to church…none of us had ever sat down with him and asked him what he really thought about God or told him what we thought about Him…so i wrote him that letter..telling him everything i believed in, who i believed in, why i believed in Him and how He changed my life…shaun never said anything to me about that letter…until about 8 months later…we somehow convinced him into attending our Disciple Now and he loved it!..afterwards…he told me that he was grateful for my letter and that i was a good friend and that all the stuff i talked about in my letter made sense after D-Now…he still hasn’t made a personal descision to accept Christ…but he is makin great progress…he comes to church pretty regularly on sundays and wednesday nights with me and my friends..and seems to be getting along pretty well….i guess what i am trying to say is thank-you greg for your encouragement to talk to shaun and for everyone else out there trying to help their friends and/or family members…never give up on them…it may not be you that prays with them when they finally come to know the Lord, but it may be your very special influence in their life that helped them make that descision….never give up on them and more importantly always love on them…and God’ll take care of the rest.

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  18. On March 6, 2007 @ 2:37 pm lane said:
    • Thanks for all the great comments everyone.  For those who asked Greg to respond, he is actually on the road a ton this month, so please e-mail me with your questions- thanks!

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