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    Lust will pick a lock

    Posted on Saturday 6 August 2011 by Greg @ 6:21 pm
    Filed under: Rants

    I’ll never forget when I was a young pastor at a church in Denver and running, what was then, a brand new ministry Dare 2 Share. Somebody paid for me to go to a small pastor’s conference in Colorado Springs. Little did I know that God would use this conference, and the man speaking at it, to impact my life in a big way.

    The speaker was an expert at counseling struggling pastors. He had shepherded hundreds of spiritual shepherds from all across America, many of whom had fallen into sexual immorality of some sort or another. He was at this conference to help pastors fight against the insidious enemy called “lust” and to perserve the integrity of their lives and the pulpits they preach from on a weekly basis.

    After he was introduced he took the podium and asked the question, “How many of you pastors have some sort of boundaries when it comes to counseling members of the opposite sex? For instance, you won’t counsel a woman alone or with the door of your office shut or something like that?”

    I looked around the auditorium of two hundred or so pastors to see two hundred or so hands raised. Mine was raised too. I had always taken measures as a young, married pastor to make sure I was never in a situation where temptation could overtake me or that, well, just plain looked bad. And I was in good company. The men of God who surrounded me were just as concerned with their own personal piety and purity as I was.

    That’s why I was shocked and rocked to hear the speaker say, “I’ve counseled hundreds of pastors all across America who have fallen into sexual sin and every single one of them had safeguards and boundaries in place.” It felt like the speaker had taken a stun gun and shot us all square in the chest. Even the crickets were convicted and quiet.

    He continued, “Here’s the problem gentlemen, you can have all the safeguards you want. You can choose not to counsel a woman alone and refuse to be in a car by yourself with a member of the opposite sex. But LUST WILL PICK A LOCK. Lust will find a way to work around the safeguard and feed its ravenous hunger for satisfaction.” He continued, “The only real safeguard is a strong relationship with Jesus Christ and a strong relationship with your wife. Everything else is just window dressing.”

    As he continued I couldn’t help but remember the Apostle Paul’s warning to the Colossian believers, “Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: ‘Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!’? These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence” Colossians 2:20-23.

    The “Do not rules” do not and cannot rule over lust. As a matter of fact “they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.” If anything these rules become an aphrodisiac which makes the temptation at hand even harder to resist.

    So what is our hope in being victorious over lust if safeguards can’t ultimately provide it? Colossians 3:1,2 provides the answer, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

    Sure, lust will pick a lock, but the power of God that erupted from the cross and the empty tomb is available to us when we rivet our eyes onto the resurrected and enthroned Christ. As we learn to walk in a moment by moment declaration of dependence on Jesus we will have the strength we need to walk in victory over moral compromise.

    I still won’t counsel a woman alone. Nor will I drive in a car alone with a member of the opposite sex. But I refuse to put my trust in these safeguards to keep me from giving into lust. Only Jesus is strong enough to do that.

    Signed, Greg Stier
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    10 Comments for 'Lust will pick a lock'

    1. On August 6, 2011 @ 6:37 pm Anonymous said:
      • Being married, I would say keeping a strong relationship with my wife is very essential also to this. God is #1, but building into my wife and my marriage helps take lots of pressure off. I think this is an area i need to focus on w. my blog (engagingtheshadowsofyouthministry.com). Huge areas of shadow. Almost got a job due to the fallout of this problem. (someone else got the job, but worse the pastor lost his ministry. God bless ur ministry Greg! @mattmurphymswym

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    2. On August 6, 2011 @ 6:38 pm Matt said:
      • Being married, I would say keeping a strong relationship with my wife is very essential also to this. God is #1, but building into my wife and my marriage helps take lots of pressure off. I think this is an area i need to focus on w. my blog (engagingtheshadowsofyouthministry.com). Huge areas of shadow. Almost got a job due to the fallout of this problem. (someone else got the job, but worse the pastor lost his ministry. God bless ur ministry Greg! @mattmurphymswym

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        Greg Reply:
        August 6th, 2011 at 6:41 pm

        I agree Matt!

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    3. On August 8, 2011 @ 10:18 am John Byrne said:
      • Greg, great post. This is so true if you want sin, you will find a way to get it…we must want God more than we want sin.

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        greg stier Reply:
        August 8th, 2011 at 12:21 pm

        amen!

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    4. On August 8, 2011 @ 11:01 am woljohn said:
      • I love what Christ says in John 6:27, “do not labor for the food which perishes, but for the food which endures to everlasting life” and the question that Isaiah 55:2 ask, “why do you spend money for what is not bread and your wages for what does not satisfy.” I find that only Christ satisfies. Thanks for your reminder.

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    5. On August 8, 2011 @ 7:45 pm Augustino said:
      • One can’t be reminded often enough that sin is inevitable once you shift your gaze from Jesus.

        However, this post brought to mind a different kind of lusty dalliance – namely Pastor Worship.

        I’ve always believed that a wife who is not hip to her husband’s male dog maneuvers is not aware because she does not want to know – whether that be due to suiting a need of her own (maintaining the image of an ideal marriage) or a defense mechanism (to shield her from a pain she feels unable to bear). But, a conscious wife innately senses what/who her man is up to.

        Likewise, if a pastor’s inner circle is not aware of his unfaithfulness, it is because they are not focused on Jesus. Instead, they are likely to be so blinded by the cult of personality that they don’t see the certainty of his whoring. Maybe they’re too eager to get in on the kissing up to see that someone else is putting out even more.

        Case-in-point would be Bishop Eddie Long. His leadership team definitely knows whether he is innocent or guilty as charged. If guilty, they knew as it was happening but, they looked to their adorable pastor instead of their beloved Savior.

        Perhaps, the less fawning members of any flock could be stronger assets to pastors than the typical lip-ready minions that tend to fill pastors’ intimate sanctums. So why is it that so many pastors seem to seek out those who’ll just rubber stamp an amen to everything they say and do?

        Pastor Worship – a different, and very taboo, take on unfaithfulness – one that takes two, or more, to tango.

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        greg stier Reply:
        August 9th, 2011 at 11:55 am

        Very well put and I totally agree.

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    6. On February 2, 2012 @ 1:08 pm How Leaders Can Prevent Moral Failure BEFORE It Happens « Austin McCann said:
      • [...] Lord is the only thing that will prevent us from moral failure (read Greg Stier’s post called “Lust Will Pick the Lock”). The first thing a leader can do to prevent moral failure is having a consistent time with God [...]

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    7. On February 12, 2012 @ 8:43 pm GUEST POST: How Leaders Can Prevent Moral Failure BEFORE It Happens | More Than DodgeBall - Youth Ministry Blog by Josh Griffin - Saddleback Church's High School Youth Ministry (HSM) said:
      • [...] the Lord is the only thing that will prevent us from moral failure (read Greg Stier’s post called “Lust Will Pick the Lock”). The first thing a leader can do to prevent moral failure is having a consistent time with God [...]

      • Permalink to GUEST POST: How Leaders Can Prevent Moral Failure BEFORE It Happens | More Than DodgeBall – Youth Ministry Blog by Josh Griffin – Saddleback Church's High School Youth Ministry (HSM)'s comment

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