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Homeschooling and last weekend’s shootings

Posted on Friday 14 December 2007 by Greg @ 11:48 am
Filed under: Rants

In the aftermath of last weekend’s shootings investigators are beginning to uncover lots of stuff about the shooter Matthew Murray and his background. They discovered many of his online hate-the-Christian rants. They also found out that this very confused and twice as angry young man was homeschooled.

Now I don’t know Matthew’s parents or their child raising philosophy. But I do know his uncle. He is a godly, loving man. So I’m going to assume Matthew’s parents are cut from the same gentle cloth as he is. In other words, this is not a blame-the-parents rant. After all Matthew Murray is the one who pulled the trigger again and again, not them. But I do think this painful tragedy offers an awkward opportunity to springboard into the whole subject of homeschooling.

Some will blast the entire homeschooling movement over this one tragic incident. I won’t. I think homeschooling when done in love and grace and with effective socializing can produce high caliber kids. I’m thinking in particular of a family I know in St. Louis who has some of the best kids I have ever seen. They are godly, educated and sweet. They are also kids and have lots of fun. Their household is a house of laughter. But when its time to buckle down and work that’s exactly what they do.

But there are other parents who use the unwritten rules of the totalitarian branch of homeschooling to psychologically beat young minds into submission. These poor kids can end up like mindless drones (think Stepford children) or absolute rebels (think Children of the Corn.)

Some people swear by some of the more legalistic approaches to homeschooling. And, I have to admit, I’ve seen some solid Biblical teaching when it comes to character development in some of the more “strict” sects of this growing movement. But in many of these materials there is an undercurrent of legalism. There is a big emphasis on the do’s and don’ts. Do memorize verses out of the King James Version of Scripture, do read the Bible everyday for ten minutes anddo follow all the rules and regulated steps in the proper order in order to insure maximum holiness.

On the no-no side of the ledger there’s the daunting list of don’ts: Don’t listen to rock-n-roll (Christian or otherwise),don’t watch movies (with the possible exception of Left Behind series)trong>don’t blah, blah, blah.

What I don’t see a lot of in this sieg heil type of Christianity is an emphasis on the freedom that we have in Christ, of the relationship that we develop as we learn to stay dependent on the Spirit and on the joy that should overflow from us, not because of the seven steps we followed or the seven sins we avoided but because of the seven fold passion we have for Jesus.

The apostle Paul reminds us in Colossians 2:20-3:2,

“Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: ‘Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!’? These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.

Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

Paul is reminding us that being sanctified is not a matter of the rules we keep for God (”Do not touch. Do not taste. Do not handle.”) but of the relationship we have with God. Legalism is not so much the rules but the attitude about the rules. It is a subtle or not so subtle dependence on adherence to the list to sanctify you. To be honest I feel sorry for the children in this small stream of the homeschool movement whose parents are little hitlers driving their little kids to this very little version of Christianity.

Again I’m not against homeschooling at all. I’m all for it when done in a Biblical, balanced and loving way. But what I can’t stand, what I can’t tolerate is legalism in any form.

I hate it…and I’m in good company. Jesus hated it too. For those of you who beg to differ check out Matthew 23 in the King James Version.

Thou will findest its true.

Signed, Greg Stier

15 Comments for 'Homeschooling and last weekend’s shootings'

  1. On December 15, 2007 @ 12:44 pm Lily said:
    • Greg, I’ve been homeschooled for the past two years. In our homeschool group I definately see both kinds of families that you described. I know that my parents had my best interest in mind when they decided to homeschool me. I am blessed because they sacrifice themselves so I can grow up in a Christian homeschool situation. I am still involved in the public shool extra curricalar activities so I still have many friends. Some of my best friends in homeschooling are the happiest family I have ever seen. Another of my close friends is in the kind of family who swears by the KJV Bible and all the girls wear skirts and head coverings. Both are great Christians, but one has more of a voice in our culture today.
      I pray that people will not be discouraged from homeschooling because of the shootings last week. I pray for that young man’s parents as they thought that they were helping him through homeschooling.

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  2. On December 15, 2007 @ 12:57 pm Gary W. Cox said:
    • I was home schooled for a few years. About four. Rather I should call it “home arcade” or “Home soda, chips and playstation time”. I didn’t learn anything, I wasn’t a Christian for those years, neither were my parents…though they claimed to be. It was obvious they weren’t. My parent’s didn’t teach me and getting into High School just proved far more difficult because of it. I learned just how behind I was. Four years with no learning. Praise God I actually enjoyed educational programming, otherwise I would have been upward in the unsanitary tributary minus the means of manual locomotion. If you catch my drift. But, I’M NOT against home schooling either. I’m with you buddy, I’ve had for a few years now, a family next door who home school their children and what a family they are. They even put on neighborhood plays. I plan on possibly homeschooling my children if I have them. Minus the playstation and endless sodas.
      Blessings Greg.

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  3. On December 15, 2007 @ 5:24 pm Big Daddy said:
    • However……………………………..

      For every one home schooler “gone bad”, how many kids in public schools are locked-up, laughed-up(teased) and left behind? Is it really a system or a method that is at the heart of this?

      The media will use our own ignorance to place blame on “people gone wrong”, when it’s a world-wide epidemic of sin and separation from God that brings on our blackest hours. Satin is a lier and a deceiver, and he will kill and mame by anything that is still in his control.

      If a young person is left to their own vices and spend their waking hours playing video games and drinking soda, that is a parenting problem not a home educating problem (key word being educating). Just because a parent removes their child from public schools, we can’t assume that child is getting a proper education at home. There are plenty of public schools that fail to educate their graduates past a seventh grade level.

      (Just because one Baptist preacher thanks God for dead soldiers, doesn’t mean every Baptist preacher is bad)

      Am I a home educator? Yes. Do I believe it’s Biblical? Yes. Do I listen to rock-n-roll? YES! Do I get Greg’s point? Yes. Do I hate legalism? Yes. Do I still love my brother? Yes.

      I wonder if Jesus was educated by the state?

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  4. On December 16, 2007 @ 8:20 am Greg Stier said:
    • Wow! Some pretty strong feelings! thanks for your input everyone!

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  5. On December 16, 2007 @ 8:29 pm Kylie said:
    • Greg,
      I have to say that I agree yet diagree with this blog a tiny bit. You see a few weeks ago marked the tenth anniversary of the heath high school shooting, Where a boy opened fire on a prayer group that was meeting in the lobby one morning. Although I didn’t attend the school when it happened,(because I guess that would mean I failed just a couple times).I listened to many teachers tell stories of how they held kids as they were dieing and how horrible and tragic that day was. The more I think about what happened at my school and about the homeschool shooting I soon notice that whether Matthew Murray was homeschooled or not he still could have had the power to end a group of christians lives. It almost scares me some times to think that where I attend prayer group every morning before school, is where a group kids took there last breath. I belive many people have been working hard since then to improve our school. Like Stephen Curtis Chapman (who graduated from my school before the shooting occured) has written many songs about the event.As students at schools where shottings have occured, and as christians in general it’s our responsiblity to make sure that nothing like that ever takes place again. However like it says in Matthew 5:11 Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. therfore we should consider traggic events like the home school shooting to be a blessing(and a praise for graduating P.U), and find the greater, and positive things that god has made out of them.

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  6. On December 16, 2007 @ 9:50 pm sara said:
    • wow Kylie I agree. If he was public schooled I don’t think the news would have said anything about his schooling, also I dont really think greg would have written a blog about if he agrees with the public school system or not, just a though

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  7. On December 16, 2007 @ 9:56 pm Heather said:
    • I was homeschooled through fourth grade. I would not trade that experience for the world! I like the opportunities public school has given me (like being on the debate squad!) but homeschooling gave me a Biblical and critical thinking foundation I do not believe our public school system is capable of providing.

      And on a different note, whether a kid is homeschooled or not is not going to make a killer or nonkiller out of him. The kids at Columbine as well as this Matthew Murray had the same problem: sin and a lack of Christ’s love in their life. We should reach out and try to love people like Murray along with any and every homeschooler who is under a negative influence.

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  8. On December 17, 2007 @ 9:14 am Greg Stier said:
    • Just so you guys know I actually think homeschooling, when done properly and with love and balance is a great (and probably the most Biblical) way to teach your children. It’s not homeschooling I have a problem with at all. It’s legalistic homeschooling strategies that are in some streams of the homeschooling movement. Some of the best young people I know are products of homeschooling done in a loving, relevant, Biblical and socialized way. Some of the worst young people I’ve met are products of the legalistic stream of the homeschooling movement and some of the more legalistic Christian schools (one of which I graduated from). It’s not homeschooling that I have a problem with…it’s legalism.

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  9. On December 17, 2007 @ 12:00 pm Eddie said:
    • Just so I understand your comments better… I believe you’re making a comment on the types of homeschooling and not really homeschooling itself?

      Taking for example these two extremes from both types: Tim Tebow (homeschooled, University of Florida Heisman Trophy qb for 2007)on one side and the kids from the Ruby Ridge or the Waco Texas tragedies some years ago.

      The issue isnt the homeschooling but legalism within the curriculum? I think that’s what I get from what you’re saying. Personally, I think homeschooling is great. I know many families who were wonderful homeschool examples. I also know many who were not. The problem wasnt homeschooling but how it was done.

      Legalism is a problem in ANY school format, family, or ministry and in any form.

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  10. On December 17, 2007 @ 1:52 pm Greg Stier said:
    • Yes Eddie! That’s exactly what I’m saying!

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  11. On December 17, 2007 @ 7:10 pm Shane Vander Hart said:
    • My wife and I homeschool our kids and have done so for seven years. We have seen good and bad. I wrestled with this because as a youth pastor I felt like our kids need to be involved in public school in order to be salt and light. I also worried about the “socialization” issue… you know what though? When you place a bunch of 4th graders in the same room, what do they learn to become? Better fourth graders. At no other time in their life will they be segmented based on age. Now my kids have the opportunity to be around more adults, older kids, and they also have the ability to serve younger kids in different clubs and groups that we are a part of. My wife and I get to be the primary influencers as we should be. Also our kids have the opportunity to be salt and light with kids in the neighborhood and in extra-curricular activities.

      I am not one who says homeschooling is for everybody… like I said before I’ve seen it done badly by people who were not equipped to do it. I have also seen legalistic families do it too, but there are also legalistic families who send their kids to public schools. I agree with Big Daddy, and I understand the point you are making Greg. I guess when you said “kids who are appropriately socialized” it made me think of all the times I have heard that term used by people who disagree with me being a home educator. I know you don’t mean it in the way those people do.

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  12. On December 17, 2007 @ 11:16 pm Teacher suspended for showing GodTube ‘Letter from Hell’ at Bene Diction Blogs On said:
    • […] and which promotes ‘extreme’ events. The groups headquarters is in Arvada Colorado. The groups leader has a blog and posted on the Dec. 9th shootings in Arvada. No comment on the media page of the […]

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  13. On December 18, 2007 @ 9:42 am Ed said:
    • The trouble with legalism is that it’s a disease that other people get. ;O)

      ED

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  14. On December 19, 2007 @ 11:23 am Jorden said:
    • Yeah I agree legalism isn’t good for anything. I’ve been homeschooled since third grade(I’m a junior now). I agree if homeschooling is done properly it can be a great asset. Because I really haven’t done much with other homeschoolers I haven’t witnessed it, but I agree with what your saying. I tend to do everything at home. Therefore I kind of improvise for my friends and from that most of my friends I’ve either met online or at church. All I have left to say is that I memorize Bible verses in KJV because I’m cool *puts on shades*, lol.

      Godbless,
      Jorden

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  15. On December 21, 2007 @ 4:33 pm Matt Gerry said:
    • Greg…you put legalism into words perfectly! Thanks for this post…it was really a blessing for me.

      We are in the middle of searching for a new pastor for our church…and it was getting so discouraging seeing all these legalistic resumes of “1611 KJV only” and “any music with a syncopated beat is the devil.” It was really starting to get to me!

      Thanks again! I praise God for all you organization has done to help in our youth ministry! I was excited to see your doing the GOSPEL JOURNEY Hawaii as well. Let me know how we can help!

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